"An abortion worth mourning"
Eddie E. at Serving Bread has reacted to the same article with sadness, but without rancor. He says some of the things that I was too angry to say:
. . . I am writing this post to mourn for the two aborted boys that no one else (certainly not the Neils) is mourning or grieving.
The Neils made a choice to pursue in-vitro fertilization. They made a choice to have children later in life (Neil says he is 47 but doesn’t say the age of his wife). And they made a choice to abort the two fetuses because four could be unhealthy for the wife. And they made a choice of aborting the male ones because a male fetus is four times more likely to develop autism when the father is older. Rather than live with certain consequences of life, Dan Neil communicates an aspect of our culture that proclaims that life revolves only around our choices and that we have a right to control all of the consequences of our decisions.
Dan Neil says that he and his wife feel no guilt or remorse, and not even much sadness, about being "forced" to abort their sons. It's charitable of Eddie E. to feel it for them, and though I haven't quite managed to rid myself of the anger I felt when I originally read the editorial, I'm at least heartened and inspired by Eddie E.'s example.